What is “Home”?
Can you have more than one?
If you have two or more, are they the same?
For me, right now, Home is the place I live. But, the ingredients of Home have changed many times over the years.
Without going too far back…
The first iteration of Home with my wife was just her and I, figuring it out. Then our son came along and Home changed a Lot! As he grew older and as my marriage evolved, so did Home. Then came a daughter and a move to a different state and a change in jobs and a rediscovery of my marriage and the addition of in-laws, and each time, the hue and tone and timber of Home evolved.
Then a loss of my father-in-law…and my son moving out, and back, and out again.
Then came the addition of a daughter – and then a granddaughter – and even though they didn’t live with us, Home still changed to include their spirit and presence and our love for them.
Then the loss of my mother-in-law last year, which caused a form of limbo to materialize until we could reconfigure Home enough to allow us to move forward again.
Now, for a while, my son is home again and my daughter is engaged and I’ll soon have another son; and my marriage continues to evolve.
Home never repeats itself, even if the basic ingredients are the same. The proportions, the flavor and spices are constantly changing; almost like my chili recipe: the same, but never exactly the same.
Verbally and consciously, I’ve always thought I wanted Home to remain the same, not only for me, but for my kids – and for their kids. But now I realize that this isn’t necessary. As long as the main component, the main ingredient is unchanged – that being Unconditional Love – then it will always be Home, for us and for those we love.